Oh the joys of potty training!! We had a special request from a frustrated mommy, who's little boy is refusing to be potty trained. She is at her wits end. So hopefully I can give her a few tips to help the little munchkin.... we would love to hear what worked for you too!! (or didn't work:)
Potty Training Targets
Instead of drenching your walls or the floor, your little buddy gets target practice! Just put a target in the toilet and let him at it! These are made of rice paper so they dissolve, so there's no messy cleanup! $10 for a package of 50. Momsonedge.com.
I read that sometimes kids get the potty thing down quite easily, but the poop thing is another story. They think something is wrong because they think that the doodie is a part of them so it's hard for them to watch it go down the john. Put them to ease by reading them Where's the Poop? by Julie Marks
Here are some signs that show your child is ready to be potty trained:
1. No BM's through the night
2. Dry diaper for long periods of time, i.e. from long naps and/or in the morning
3. Your child can undress him/herself
4. Is able to imitate behavior
5. Child's desire for parental approval
6. Desire to master one's own body and environment- manifested by "I can do it" or Im a big boy/girl now
How to Start
Once you feel your child is ready to begin potty training, the first step is to purchase a potty chair. A potty chair is smaller than the toilet and helps the child to feel more secure.
Have your child sit on the potty during times she is most likely to urinate or have a bowel movement, such as in the morning, before and after naps or after mealtimes. Reading a book, talking or singing songs will encourage your child to sit on the chair longer. Avoid trying to force your child to sit for long periods of time or against her will.
Don't be surprised if, after sitting on the potty without result, your child stands up and begins to urinate. This is often perceived as stubbornness. The fact is, your child may not have mastered the skill of relaxing his bladder muscles. If this happens frequently, it may be a sign that he is not ready.
Training Pants
When your child begins to successfully use the potty, you may want to consider purchasing training pants for daytime use. Disposable training pants are convenient for outings, but cotton training pants will allow your child to be more aware of when they are urinating, encouraging them to use the potty instead. Plastic diaper covers will help protect your home from accidents.
Nighttime
Some children simultaneously learn to stay dry during the day and at night. For others, it can take several months, even a few years (?!!) Allowing your child to wear a diaper at night until she begins to consistently wake up dry will prevent feelings of shame and failure.
Regression
A new baby, changes in routine, a family crisis or putting too much pressure on your child can cause him to regress in the potty department. Avoid making your child feel bad during this time and encourage him to keep trying.
Relax
Every child's body is different. Some catch on quickly, while others take much longer to recognize the signals their body is sending them. Lavish praise on your child when she is successful and reassurance when she has an accident.
Avoid comparing your child's potty training progress to that of another child's. Mastering teh use of the toilet is not an indication of a child's intelligence. It is dependent on their physical, physiological and emotional maturity. Have patience and eventually, your child will be a "big" boy or girl.
A cute idea I saw that might help with little boys is to have a "Daddy Does It" weekend. The dad covered all the couches and chairs in plastic, and bought manly-man underwear-- just like Dad's. They spent the weekend in T-shirts and underwear and made a game of going to the bathroom every hour, to see who could go. He said there were very few accidents and blocking one whole weekend made it easy!
Here are some manly man underwear for the little guy
And for her....
$12.50 Gap Kids
Hang in there!
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Information source: pottytrainingconcepts.com
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5 comments:
You are a superwoman! Good job!
So, potty training....my kid's always used the chart system. I would make a cute chart hang it right by the toilet with some fun stickers. I would also have a basket of small prizes in the bathroom. Whenever the little runt did the deed, they would put a sticker in one of the squares on the chart. When they are first starting potty training, they get to pick a prize EVERY time they go. When they get a little better, it might be every few times (finish a whole row of squares). When they are really good they might have to finish the whole chart. I had a son who was great at peeing in the toilet, but not pooping. He would scream and scream his head off and hold it...so, he would alway be constipated. He had a "Happy Bum" chart that was only for pooping. Stickers/Prizes only for poops...because that's all he needed help with.
I have also noticed that they REALLY do have to be ready. If your kid doesn't show interest in it, unfortunately...you need to wait until they do. My little girl is almost 3 and has NO interest. It really sucks. But, I would totally be wasting my time by trying to teach her right now. When they are ready to learn it will just take off! As for now, I just sit around, wait, and continue to change extremely rancid, nasty diapers. There is no Barbie, Tinkerbell, or fancy dress that can convince her of the joys of a clean diaper. But, when she's ready...I'll pull out the trusty chart.
Also, I've never used the kid size potty things. Mostly cause it would gross me out to clean it. I just buy the toilet seats that are small that fit on top of the regular toilet...like Dora, Pooh Bear, ya know...
Long comment.
I totally second what Mariel and Jessica have already said. You can't make them do it until they're ready, and all those reward systems really do work.
My daughter was almost three before she showed interest, my son was more than 3 1/2.
One thing I did was I gave them a choice each day of which undies to wear: big kid or a pull-up/diaper (they will not learn in only pull-ups! they HAVE to feel when they're wet). Sometimes they chose the big kid underwear, and sometimes not. We went to the toilet several times a day either way.
Eventually they began choosing regular underwear all the time, and about that same time, they stopped having any daytime accidents at all. Nighttime took another couple of years for each of my kids. I did put them in pull-ups at night to save myself the mess.
The most important thing is not to stress over it AT ALL. It will happen on its own. Take extra clothes with you everywhere you go, and just relax. :)
THANK YOU! This totally gives me new ideas to try!
My son wasn't potty trained until almost 3 1/2. When he was finally trained, he literally went pee every hour! Then I realized why he took so long, b/c he didn't like stopping whatever he was doing to go potty.
One good tip, is if you're serious about potty training that's helped me, is to plan it on a week you don't have to go anywhere! The more you're just home and asking if they need to potty every hour the less accidents and they'll catch on easier than running any errands having to use a different potty.
My son was by far the hardest! He made me bring his potty seat (kind mariel talked about) everywhere for the 1st month! So discusting, but what you will do to get it done!
I didn't care if my 2nd daughter ever went potty b/c of this, and she just went potty on her own at 2 1/2, I did nothing. It just depends on your child. Hang in there, or give up and wait until he wants to. Don't go nuts over it like I did!
OH...I have SOOOO been there...I have 2 boys...and both took their sweet time in potty training!
My youngest son loved this(Works only for BOYS)....it is similar to that target you mentioned...but MUCH cheaper...You toss a few cherrios in the potty and let them try to hit the "targets" He Loved IT! He thoght it was a game! Hope this idea helps someone....I know what it is like to be frustrated when it comes to this issue!!!!
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