Comments on Or so she says...: The Bully At School ~ What To Do When Your Child I...

Look into the ... BIG BROTHERS, BIG SISTERS organi...

2011-05-22T10:05:36.627-07:00

Look into the ... BIG BROTHERS, BIG SISTERS organization....they partner high schoolers and community members with youth.

Amazing post. We need more community members who act this responsibly to teach our children that this is an intolerable thing.

Thank you for writing this. It's all so true.

2010-10-14T09:42:36.395-07:00

Thank you for writing this. It's all so true.

Wow! What an awesome post! It made me cry, and I...

2009-11-17T12:24:48.843-07:00

Wow! What an awesome post! It made me cry, and I remember the girl on the bus who everyone made fun of. She had two younger brothers who were also made fun of. I am also haunted by the memory of those kids and now I wonder why I was not strong enough to stand up for them.

My 6 year old called his younger brother a "loser" last week. I was so shocked and surprised. I sat him down and had a chat about where he had heard that word and why we NEVER use it to call someone else a terrible name. I have worried that he would be the target of bullies because he is small for his age, wears glasses, has no sports skills, and is really smart. It all adds up to he is an adorable little nerd. Your article is very helpful.

I hope you do start that organization you dream of. The world would be better off with it.

Wonderful post about a difficult subject! I'm ...

2009-10-21T05:15:47.426-07:00

Wonderful post about a difficult subject! I'm a teacher and love what Caden's teacher (and you and his Uncles!) did for him!

Thank you for this post. Someone recommended I rea...

2009-10-19T17:43:20.063-07:00

Thank you for this post. Someone recommended I read it after my son and daughter were bullied on the way home from school last week. I called the principal and reported it and spoke with my kids about bullies. This was a lot of great information. Thank you!

I work at a Junior High and see this all the time....

2009-09-28T12:31:02.337-07:00

I work at a Junior High and see this all the time. Is there a resource for the poster and guidelines for parents. Thanks

My daughter was bullied when she was in fist grade...

2009-09-27T21:31:02.853-07:00

My daughter was bullied when she was in fist grade, she didn't want to go to school and would call me from school often saying her stomach hurt and she needed to come home. After talking to her and figuring out that a bully was the cause of this, I talked to her teacher. She was not such a superstar as your sons teacher, but it was helpful that she was aware there was a problem.
As a member of the PTA I created a program last year that was called "Heroes for Life". We did a lot of activities that focused on characteristics that make a person a Hero. We taught that all kids are Heroes if they are kind to others and practice good character. Our teachers also took the word Hero and created this to go with it "Here Everyone Respects Others". The teachers and PTA worked together and this year, the PTA has opted to let the teachers do more of the work with the program because they are in the classrooms and see the problems more than the PTA. They are doing a fantastic job and I am so excited to see the program go forward, and I also hope that it is making an impact in the lives of the students. Heroes are not Bullies.

i get so upset even when i see peers at the univer...

2009-09-26T10:35:07.262-07:00

i get so upset even when i see peers at the university sitting alone or being left out!! Its still so sad when you are at school when you are 20! maybe i'm just too sensitive-- most likely they want some peace & quite between lectures! ha! but i usually try and sit next to them or give them a compliment on something of theirs i like. i have made many friends by sitting at their table in the library & in the school courtyard.

this post is so brilliant. you handled the situation with Caden so wonderfully! I would have been banned from their school for kicking that kid's butt! ha!

what can i say, i'm a very protective aunt! : )

thanks for addressing this important issue!--
xoxo-

Shelby, We will help you. Will you email me at l...

2009-09-26T10:05:51.952-07:00

Shelby,

We will help you. Will you email me at ladies@oneshetwoshe.com and tell me more about it??

Never stop telling people! Your mum needs to know every single day what is happening. Email me.

Mariel

hi my name is shelby and i am 13. i have been bein...

2009-09-26T09:30:09.991-07:00

hi my name is shelby and i am 13. i have been being bullyed since i was 10. well i have had experience of being bullyed since i started school but since i was 10 its been non-stop. i have told my mum and shes phoned the school but it just gets worse. so now i dont tell anyone what should i do?

Thank you so much for this. I am a teacher and alt...

2009-09-25T17:01:41.693-07:00

Thank you so much for this. I am a teacher and although I think my kids are pretty good, I still can see a few outcasts and it does break my heart. You are right, we need to be more proactive and do what we can to force a good thing for those kids. Job well done...you may have saved many children b/c of your post.

I am so glad you wrote this. What a great post. It...

2009-09-25T11:52:21.687-07:00

I am so glad you wrote this. What a great post. It makes me cry. I try to make sure when I am at schools during the school year that I look for kids that are on the fringes and not fitting in. I make sure that I tell them how amazing and special they are and how life has many good things in store. It is ok to be different : )

Three Cheers for you Mariel. That was an awesome ...

2009-09-24T21:41:13.705-07:00

Three Cheers for you Mariel. That was an awesome post. And I really appreciate you pouring your heart into this. I am addressing this with the fam at the next family home evening. And nice use of the word effing, it's one of my faves!

Oh! and I too have 4 little ones, so right now lif...

2009-09-24T16:19:09.609-07:00

Oh! and I too have 4 little ones, so right now life is too crazy for that, but it is a great idea and would love to help in the future!

What a coincidence! Just yesterday I had to approa...

2009-09-24T16:17:36.328-07:00

What a coincidence! Just yesterday I had to approach a kid that was bullying one of the boys in my carpool. I was glad I did, because I don’t think that he knew that what he was doing was truly hurting this boy! You could tell he was typically a “good” kid but he just found an easy situation to test the bullying. My son just started 1st grade too and has reported that surprisingly it is the girls who are doing most of the bullying! Wow! I’ve given him some ideas and we’ve talked to the teacher too, but it just breaks my heart!

That was a great post. I've heard about these ...

2009-09-24T14:05:23.239-07:00

That was a great post. I've heard about these boys that have committed suicide because of bullying and the sad part is that it is not the parents disregarding the issue it is mostly that the teacher, school has not done anything about it. I am so proud to say that the school where my children go to is a "NO Tolerance for bullies" and that if there is a problem they get right down to it and do something about it. I have a friend that her girl is in my daughters class and she had an incident of bullying and the teacher followed through by changing her from one table to the other and having her sit with her friends and now 2 days later the girl is happy and just fine. We need to teach our kids to communicate we us the parents so that something can be done immediately and not too late, just like of the examples of these young men that took their lifes because of bullying. My heart goes out to all the parents that lost their children to this problem in our society.

Thank you for a great post!! It has very great ide...

2009-09-24T13:48:48.517-07:00

Thank you for a great post!! It has very great ideas, especially about the older kids helping out w/younger kids! And I am going to have a talk w/my daughter about befriending other kids! I have told her that she needs to be nice to everyone but I think I am going to revisit this. I think that I am going to talk to her Daisy Scout leader about this also. Maybe we can have a meeting about it! Thanks for giving me something to think about!!

I was always a very empathetic and compassionate c...

2009-09-24T11:23:49.766-07:00

I was always a very empathetic and compassionate child. My mother taught me the same things you are urging others to do - to reach out to the lonely, the new kid, etc. This has become a habit that has gained me some of my best friends. It also just feels good to help someone out. Thanks for this great reminder. You should get with some of your news contacts to see if they'd do a feature on this piece. Maybe they could help you (or connect you with some one) to aid you in your project! Again great post - thanks!
Erin

Wow. Beautiful post. I am going to post a link to ...

2009-09-24T08:58:48.126-07:00

Wow. Beautiful post. I am going to post a link to it on my blog, too. I was bullied by a group of vicious, hateful girls all through 4th, 5th, and 6th grade. My teachers were totally unsupportive, and my parents were dealing with monumental problems of their own at the time. Thank God for my big brother. He was my safe place. To this day, I think about those girls with anger, and my emotional scars have made it hard to address this issue effectively with my own 6 year old daughter. I am so glad for your post, and I will be talking to my daughter about these things at our next Monday Family Night.

Great post! You always have great ideas in hard si...

2009-09-23T21:48:07.978-07:00

Great post! You always have great ideas in hard situations. You're kids are lucky to have such a great mom to get involved!

Your post really touched my heart. A mother's...

2009-09-23T19:57:08.975-07:00

Your post really touched my heart. A mother's worst nightmare, her child being bullied...or being the bully. Love the advice, thanks!

Thank you for this post. I'm trying to stop cr...

2009-09-23T18:46:52.291-07:00

Thank you for this post. I'm trying to stop crying. My mom and I just had a conversation about bullying today and how you handle it. I only have one baby boy who is 10 months old but my stomach already aches for the day someone is mean to him. I still remember all the hurtful things that were ever said to me when I was a child. It's really unfortunate that bullying exists, but it does, and I love your tips on how to handle the situation. Definitely my favorite post so far. Thank you.

Bullying makes me so sad. I was so nervous for my...

2009-09-23T18:09:54.439-07:00

Bullying makes me so sad. I was so nervous for my niece to start kindergarten because I just wanted her to be happy and have friends.

I think it's great how your sons teacher helped with the situation, sounds like her help was great.

And your idea to have the uncles come to his school- so smart!

I think it's great that you posted aobut his, it is so important to get the word out and inform people of how serious it is! Thanks for writing this!

Bullying makes me so sad. I was so nervous for my...

2009-09-23T18:09:50.474-07:00

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